~Kisah Cinta Ku~

Arini my hubby boarding to Sarawak and dis Sunday dia balik. Miss him already. Semalam aku tak sihat, balik dari opis my hubby fetch kat Taman Bahagia Damansara. Aku tido all the way home. Sampai umah pas solat dengan my hubby, aku berkira nak lelap kejap je….kain telekong pun aku lom tanggal, tapi terlajak. Aku sedar jam dah kul11 malam. Hubby aku belom makan malam lagi. Mulalah bangun dari katil ngan kelam kabut. Cabut telekong terus turun ke bawah. Hubby ngah baring kat hall depan tv. Aku ingat dia dah tido. Tapi bila dia tengok aku, dia tersenyum. Aduhai….memang menjadi penawar segala penyakitlah pendek kata (^^,). Aku pun mulalah perlahan2 baring kat tepi dia atas sofa tu. Aku bisik kat dia, aku minta maaf sebab terlajak tido sampai tak sempat nak masak tuk makan malam. Dia cakap tak ape then dia kiss dahi aku. How sweet. Ari ahad ni, aku nak masak sedap2 tuk dia….dalam kepala ni dah ade satu dua resepi yang ‘marvelous’. Tak sabar nak tunggu hubby balik.

I love you hubby.

Almost a month aku bergelar Mrs Junaidy. Ade memember tanya, ape perbezaan sebelum dan selepas berumah tangga? Huh!! Jenuh juga nak menjawab memandangkan aku baru sebulan nikah, tapi secara general aku boleh kata beza sebelum dan selepas kawen memang ketara, bukan a bit changes tapi almost everything must change. Kalau orang yang tak ready sure rasa terbeban dengan segala tanggungjawab yang perlu dipikul. Kalau dapat suami jenis yang ‘cool’ dan jenis yang ‘lantak’, aku rasa takde masalah, tapi kalau dapat yang particular dalam segala hal, agak2 sure muka si wife masam memanjang. Sebenarnya, dapat suami yang ‘cool’ atau yang ‘protocol’, dua2 takde masalah kalau kita dapat buat segala tanggungjawab dengan rela hati. Kalau tak rela, baik pikir awal2.

Masa bujang leh la iron baju sendiri. Kedut skit pun tak jadi hal, tak pun kalau yang jenis malas pakai baju tak ber ‘iron’ pun tak pe. Skrang dah kawen, bukan stakat baju sendiri baju laki pun kena gosok sama. Sebelom kawen, perut sumbat maggi cap ayam dengan kari hari-hari pun tak jadi masalah, asal perut berisi. Dah kawen, takkanlah nak kasi laki makan maggi yang ada macam2 brand kat market tu. Haa…baru teruji segala kepakaran memasak. Macam alkesahnya semalam, aku tanya hubby dia nak makan malam lauk ape. So dia cakap nak makan ikan siakap dengan kari ayam. Mulalah jari ni duk ketuk2 meja, nak recall balik ape yang mama aku ajar camne nak wat kari ayam. Pikir punya pikir, mujur ingat la ugak sikit sebanyak.

Sampai umah kul8 pm, pas solat dengan hubby aku terus terjun ke dapur. Punyalah eksen. Main campak2 dalam periuk je. Alik2 menjadi tapi hangus la plak, rupa kari nampak elok tapi rasa dah lain macam sebab dah hangit. Bila hubby aku tanya nape ade bau hangit, so aku salahkan periuk. Aku masak dah betol. Periuk yang boikot wat kari ayam aku hangit. Dia senyum je. Tapi at the end, perut dia senak coz makan banyak sangat. Moral of the story, kalau mak kita ajak masuk dapur tu jgn duk wat bodo. Better belaja, wat ringan tangan skit. Karang dah terkena macam aku, baru padan ngan muka. Malu beb tak reti masak. Kate org bijak pandai, nak pikat hati laki kena pikat perut dia dulu. (^^,) tapi walau camne mana aku masak skalipun, pas makan hubby akn peluk aku then dia akan cakap terima kasih (“,”). Very sweet. Macam2 hal lah pendek kata yang aku belaja dengan hubby aku. Mujur dia jenis yang open minded walaupun sebenarnya sikap dia serius. Setakat ni aku happy menjadi seorang wanita yang berstatus isteri. Cukupla dulu wat setakat ni, lain kali hikayat kesah lain pulak aku add post kat sini.

Happy day.

Tuhan dulu pernah aku menagih simpati
Kepada manusia yang alpa jua buta
Lalu terheretlah aku dilorong gelisah
Luka hati yang berdarah kini jadi parah

Semalam sudah sampai kepenghujungnya
Kisah seribu duka ku harap sudah berlalu
Tak ingin lagi kuulangi kembali
Gerak dosa yang menghiris hati

Tuhan dosa ku menggunung tinggi
Tapi rahmat-Mu melangit luas
Harga selautan syukurku
Hanyalah setitis nikmat-Mu di bumi

Tuhan walau taubat sering kumungkir
Namun pengampunan-Mu tak pernah bertepi
Bila selangkah kurapat pada-Mu
Seribu langkah Kau rapat padaku

Lirik lagu nyanyian kumpulan The Zikr yang membawa seribu pengertian dalam hidup ku. Selama hayat aku di atas muka bumi ciptaanNya, mungkin sudah bergunung dosa yang dihitung di kiri bahu aku. Tapi DIA tidak penah meninggalkan aku jauh. Malah sekali ingatan ku padaNya, tanpa henti DIA mencurahkan nikmat dan kurniaanNya kepada ku. Kadang kala aku malu untuk meminta, mengenang betapa aku sentiasa lupa padaNya. Di kala aku buntu, aku menadah tangan ke atas, menangis, menyerah moga diberi keampunan. Aku takut, andai satu pagi aku terjaga dari tidur dan melihat jasad ku terbaring. Kaku, tidak bergerak. Dimana lagi ingin aku memohon keampunan? Siapa yang akan menghilangkan perasaan takut saat berhadapan dengan azabNya?

Ya Allah…berikan keampunan kepada ku. Seandainya esok adalah subuh ku yang terakhir, aku mohon padaMu matikanlah aku didalam rahmat iman dan Islam.

Amin.

dis poem I dedicated to my husband Junaidy.

I never knew what love meant until I met you
Your always there for me
Whenever I need you
You worry so much for me
And I do too
That when we are not together
We miss each other all the way through.

You always comfort me
When I’m sad
You try so hard to make me happy
Even when I’m mad,
I dont know sometimes how you put up with me
I guess thats very nice
To have a wonderfull husband
Always by my side.

by Angelica Machado

Finally, now I will give you part 2 of this highly successful tips. Try it out from now on and who knows, you might have a super great Valentine’s Day in 2009.  

51. Take advantage of anytime alone together

52. Tell your wife about how you answered every question in math with her name. (Assuming you’re continuing your education). 
53. Draw. (If you can.) 
54. Let your wife sit on your lap. 
55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain. 
56. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears. 
57. Kiss your wife’s stomach. 
58. Always hold your wife around her hips/sides. 
59. Husbands like half-shirts. 
60. Take your wife to dinner and do the dinner for two deal. 
61. Spaghetti…(Ever see Lady and the Tramp?) 
62. Hold your wife’s hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart. 
63. Unless you can feel their heart beating, you aren’t close enough. 
64. Dance together. 
65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out/make love. 
66. Tell your lifemate you love the way they look right after they’ve fallen asleep, with their head in your lap. 
67. Carry your wife to bed. 
68. Waterbeds are fun. 
69. You figure it out. 
70. Do cute things like write “I love you” in a note so that they have to look in the mirror to read it. 
71. Break every one of your ’safe’ relationship rules for your lifemate. 
72. Make excuses to call your lifemate repeatedly in one day. 
73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say “I love you”. 
74. Call from your business trip to tell your lifemate you were thing about them. 
75. Remember your dreams and tell your lifemate about them. 
76. Drive home from work just to see your lifemate, before turning around and going back to a business meeting in the evening. 
77. Sit in your car in the driveway, honk, then blow your lifemate a kiss as you leave for work. 
78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears. 
79. Share your deepest convictions. 
80. Be Prince/Princess Charming to your lifemate’s parents. 
81. Act out mutual fantasies together. (Not necessarily sexual) 
82. Brush your wife’s hair out of her face for her. 
83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to your lifemate. 
84. Hang out with your lifemate’s friends, too. 
85. Learn to listen. 
86. Take your wife to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked. 
87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night. 
88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistakes twice. 
89. Everyone deserves a second chance. 
90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with your lifemate. 
91. Make sacrifices for each other. 
92. Really love each other. 
93. Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to your lifemate. 
94. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them, and make sure they know it. 
95. Hot tubs are great. 
96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages, including sign language. 
97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio. 
98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other. 
99. Sleep naked together. 
100. Stand up for your lifemate when someone says unkind things about them.

I believe romance is something most couple lack, especially after a few years of courtship. Therefore, I intent to focus more on romantic ideas in this blog hoping to spice up your love life. I will begin with a list of romantic things you can do with your life partner. It will be a long list, thus I have broken up into 2 parts. It will be something you wanted, and I believe it’s going to be well worth it. 

1. Watch the sunset together

2. Take showers together. 
3. Back rubs/massages. 
4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or with blacklight. 
5. French Kiss. 
6. Hold your wife with hands inside the back of her shirt. 
7. Whisper to each other. 
8. Cook for each other. 
9. Skinny dip (discreetly). 
10. Make out in the rain. 
11. Dress each other. 
12. Undress each other. 
13. Kiss every part of your wife’s body. 
14. Hold hands. 
15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other…not sex) 
16. One word…Foreplay. 
17. Sit and talk. 
18. Buy gifts for each other. 
19. Roses. 
20. Wear your lifemate’s favorite cologne/perfume every time you’re together. 
21. Wear your husband’s clothes. 
22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars. 
23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex. 
24. Kiss at every chance you get. 
25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out. 
26. Kinky is bad…Blindfolds are good. 
27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, and then whisper “I love you”. 
28. Bubble baths. 
29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight. 
30. Make love. 
31. Write poetry for each other. 
32. Kiss and smell your wife’s hair. 
33. Hugs are the universal medicine. 
34. Say “I love you”, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it. 
35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry, etc. 
36. Tell your wife that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie. 
37. Spend every second possible together. 
38. Tell your wife that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. And mean it. 
39. Look into each other’s eyes. 
40. Very lightly push up your wife’s chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly. 
41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes. 
42. When in public, flirt with each other. 
43. Walk behind your wife and put your hands in her front pockets. 
44. Put love notes in your lifemate’s pockets when they aren’t looking. 
45. Clothes are no fun. 
46. Buy your wife a ring. 
47. Keep something special of your wife’s/your husband’s somewhere where you see it everyday. 
48. Sing to each other. 
49. Read to each other. 
50. PDA = Public Displays of Affection.

Recipe for Marital Happiness

In a stable marriage, research shows that there is five times more positive communication than negative ones.

Do you want to get your relationship on the good side of that ratio? Here’s what happy couples do:

1. Show interest in each other’s thoughts and feelings.

2. Share their joy, letting each other know when they are excited or delighted.

3. Show affection like touching each other or doing something thoughtful.

4. Accept and respect each other’s feelings, even when they don’t agree.

5. Listen without being defensive.

6. Express appreciation and display pride in each other.

7. Demonstrate empathy using words and facial expression to show they’re trying to understand.

8. Prove they care by checking in calling to ask how things are going.

9. Joke around by gently teasing, playing and having fun.

Be positive and cherish each other and your marriage will be happier, long lasting.

26 December 2008, tarikh keramat yang menjadi sejarah buat aku dan suami. Alhamdulillah. Berkat doa mama dan wan, aku dan junaidy telah sah menjadi suami isteri. Masih aku ingat pertemuan pertama di antara aku dan suami. Senyuman si dia menerbitkan perasaan yang begitu menenangkan hati. Cara si dia, gerak laku si dia, semuanya memikat hati aku. Syukur padaMu ya Allah kerana kurniakan aku seorang suami yang menyejukkan pandangan dan mendamaikan jiwa.

Hari ini, hari terakhir dalam tahun 2008. Tahun hadapan, tahun baru yang cukup bermakna bagi aku. Aku kini bersuami, aku kini bergelar seorang isteri dan kelak bakal merangkul gelaran ibu. Aku mohon pada Allah, moga segala perancangan di permudahkan, moga segala rezeki dipermurahkan.

Buat suami ku, betapa beruntungnya aku kerana menjadi pilihan mu. Tiada kata yang mampu diucapkan betapa aku bersyukur dan berterima kasih kerana dipertemukan dengan mu. Kau menjadi imam solat ku, kau menjadi pemimpin langkah ku. Demi Allah, akan aku abdikan diri ini untuk mu selayaknya bagi seorang lelaki yang bergelar suami.

Yana cinta, kasih, sayang dan rindu abang sentiasa.